Growing up Nigerian and as a black person, the term 'mental health' wasn't in our vocabulary not to talk of learning how to take care of your mental health. We were just supposed to take on the everyday struggles of Nigerian living head on especially as boys transitioning to men. Oh you feel depressed? You'll be seen as an ajebo which in this context will mean 'soft'.
The only thing mental health related we mentioned was insanity when referring to the 'mad people' who were beyond shabbily dressed, most likely homeless and picked up food from the ground. They were considered to be either victims of drug abuse or spiritual attacks. For the former they were not to be pitied and used as deterrent stories of the life we were not to lead and for the latter they were pitied and used to reinforce the importance of prayer and watching our backs.
Putting yourself out there is risky business but it's something we should do. I'm gonna start things off today with a personal story of 'rejection' and then give you some tips on how to handle rejection if you're having issues with it. I'll try to make the story as descriptive as possible and aid your imagination with pictures so you can see through my eyes as much as possible. Let's goo!
One can say youth is the trial period of life where we're bound to make more mistakes and hopefully learn from them. Billionaire investor Warren Buffet said something along the lines of the importance of learning from experience or mistakes but they don't have to be ours. As some sort of rite of passage as young people there are some common mistakes that we make and I'm here to give you a taste.
"Patience is a virtue", "the patient dog eats the fattest bone" these were sayings I used to hear growing up not so much these days. These were all ways to tell us that learning how to be more patient was a good habit to possess especially for us young ones (see 5 Ways to Maintain Good Habits). I remember that my friend, Z once replied to the patient dog quote by saying “because the fastest dogs have already eaten the meat” and everyone burst into laughter. It's funny but it shows the mentality of impatience that floats around. Who can blame us though? When you see that the fast life is very attractive and flashy. Patience usually wins but ironically you
have to be patient to see it happen.
As many of you receive your certificate, dressed up in your best attire, adorned with a gown and a hat (make sure you throw it up) and celebrating with loved ones. The next thing that happens is that you get hit with a reality cheque and it’s time to cash out. Many of you have wondered and pondered what to do with your life, balancing it with making money and having fun, spending time with loved ones and generally just being young. This post was inspired by graduation week in my uni, University of Essex, UK, shout out to all those graduating, congratulations!
Jeweller on Mondays, Book Connoisseur on Wednesdays, Quotologist on Fridays (ahh I'm still working on that one lol) and Blogger everyday! My name is Ofai and I'm passionate about blogging and it gives me fulfillment that I can help you out so sit back, relax and enjoy your weekly carats of #SelfImprovementGems with me!