Hey Gemmers, I’m changing careers from a Dr to a jeweller because Evergreen Lifestyle Gems lol. It’s Monday again so you know it’s time for your #SelfImprovementGems with your fave jeweller, yours truly. Today’s gem is a 30-carat gold encrusted diamond on how to overcome insecurities. Also, I have a Q&A on another blog, The Smurfy Gamers Blog, so if you’re interested in my blogging story go check my Q&A out. Let’s goo!
Introduction to Insecurity
I’ve previously tried to talk about this topic I think twice but I never seem to get anywhere with it and I just go on to something, it is not that I don’t have good commentary on it, I think low key I was trying to avoid any introspection or it wasn’t just the right time.
Insecurity, just like a bad habit we all have it. It’s not a good or bad thing necessarily but they have their roles to play, for example, insecurity can be a drive to excel or it can just bring you down. I’ll take it as an evolutionary trait. I believe that we have insecurities because we are imperfect beings and that is the fate of humans and it comes to life with self-consciousness or awareness amongst other things. When Adam & Eve became aware and discovered their nakedness they were ashamed and covered up. On that note, I believe many of our insecurities stem from shame and usual culprits, FWD.
What is insecurity?
According to Wikipedia, it is “a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-mage or ego.”
Let’s Visit the Armoury
To better understand insecurity, think of yourself as having an armour, your armour represents security but since you’re human it will be imperfect so it isn’t impervious. Your armour is vulnerable in some places so it has weak spots which represents insecurity. You’re the blacksmith in charge of making this armour so how strong or weak it is, is up to you. Insecurities can manifest in several ways, such as shyness, self-esteem and confidence issues (see 12 Tips to Boost Self-confidence and Self-esteem), narcissism, bullying (verbal & physical), jealousy, envy, hate, overzealous criticism, violence, etc.
Triggers of insecurity
As I mentioned before insecurities come from self-consciousness or awareness in the sense that only when you’re aware of something can you be insecure about it but you have to see in a negative light. For example, if you’re not aware that being overweight is a bad thing, you can’t be insecure about it, no matter what people say. It is only when people have made you aware through comments and dirty looks can you now become conscious of it. Don’t agree? Leave a comment below of what you think is right. Many of us develop the awareness to be insecure from childhood when trying to find our way in this world through our environment, parents lowering our esteem by comparing us to others, the media and kids around us who may have the nasty habit of criticising and discriminating so easily. Some causes or triggers of insecurity are usually based on a rejection or failure or other past trauma, a perfectionist idea which you can't hope to live up to such as the perfect body or beauty standard and social anxiety.
How to Overcome Insecurity
Overcoming insecurity isn’t quite an easy nor simple task but you need to equip yourself with a willingness to face the unpleasant things you’ve been shying away from. You might encounter road blocks on this road such as past criticisms, a negative self-image, need approval, lack of trust, images on social media, incomplete self-acceptance etc.
That’s it from me, Gemmers, it’s your turn now since we’re a team.
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Jeweller on Mondays, Book Connoisseur on Wednesdays, Quotologist on Fridays (ahh I'm still working on that one lol) and Blogger everyday! My name is Ofai and I'm passionate about blogging and it gives me fulfillment that I can help you out so sit back, relax and enjoy your weekly carats of #SelfImprovementGems with me!