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MY SELF-HELP/INSPIRATIONAL BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
1. Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg- I read this in December 2017 and OMG I was inspired. He talks about habit from an objective and if I do so say so myself subjective perspective. He talks about good and bad habits and how our habits form us. He brings in the science and the art of habit. He says we have a habit loop which involves a cue, routine and reward but the loop isn’t complete without a craving which is the basically fuel of any habit. He talks about how some habits affect us in more than one area such exercise which he called ‘keystone habits’. He also advises on how to change a bad habit; he says you can’t fully eliminate a bad habit you can only replace it at its routine stage but keep the cue and the reward the same. He mentions people such as Michael Phelps and how he uses a series of small wins to determine all his victories, people like Martin Luther King Jnr on how he inspired new habits and beliefs to a whole community. Overall, the book is very practical and in my opinion timeless, he ties it in with one underlying factor: the secret ingredient to make a more permanent change from a bad to good habit is ‘belief’, belief in a higher power or belief in yourself. I really like this book and that’s why it’s #1. It has a Goodreads rating of 4/5.
2. Know Your Limits Then Ignore Them by John Mason- I read this in January - February 2018 and it’s one of the main reasons I decided to talk about self-help as I've said in one of my posts 12 Tips to Boost Self-confidence and Self-esteem. Basically, he said if you can’t find happiness help others find it amongst other things...I’m happy but I took it that I should start advising people on a much larger scale because advice is natural to me. He borrows the mouthpieces of numerous great people and is accented with biblical references. It’s very motivational yet practical and doesn’t seem far-fetched. It’s inspirational to say the least, so if you’re feeling down or uninspired have a read and see the difference. It has a Goodreads rating of 4.2/5.
3. Think Like a Success, Act Like a Success by Steve Harvey – I read this in December 2017 (low-key haven’t finished it shhh) and I even lent it to my sister and she liked it a lot. This is also very inspiring and practical which by now is obviously a theme in my recommendations but it is more-or-less like a memoir as well as a self-help book. He tells you about his journey to being one of the top comedians and overall entertainer in the US. He gives tips and even allows writing spaces for the exercises he advises you to do in the book. After reading it and doing the exercises you should be able to identify your vehicle (you’ve to read to understand), your gifts and talents, who’s on your wagon etc. It has a Goodreads rating of 4.1/5 and a getAbstract rating of 8/10.
4. Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki – I read this in March 2018, this book is very popular like I don’t believe you can escape this book if you’re really trying to improve yourself…and that is because finances is a huge part of self-improvement. In this book, Robert talks about the lessons he learnt from his ‘Rich Dad’ (his best friend’s dad) and his ‘Poor Dad’ (his actual dad) he compares them and how they formed his financial foundation at an early age and even till now. It hammers the point that financial intelligence is the key to understanding money and getting wealthy so you can stay wealthy. He mentions how according to his Rich Dad most people are governed by two emotions when it comes to money, fear and greed/desire; it could be fear of losing it all or going broke and the desire to buy and buy because our ancestors didn’t know how long they’ll last for. He simplifies and demystifies what rich people do differently from poor people for example, how they ‘manoeuvre’ through the ‘taxing’ tactics or efforts of Uncle Sam (the U.S. government). It has a Goodreads rating of 4/5.
5. The Smart Money Woman by Arese Ugwu – I read this in January 2018 and OMG I gobbled it up in TWO DAYS! That’s big cos it’s the only time I’ve ever done something like that… I was fully committed. Being Nigerian and reading this was a breath of fresh air because most self-help/financial books are written from Western perspectives so I take this as a rare gem. It is a fictional story but the people might as well be real, it is set in Lagos, Nigeria and begins with our main character, Zuri who’s racked up an insane amount in bills and debt in general and she’s wondering what she spent most of her money on (#RELATABLE) and her next salary and even the next one after that won’t be able to cover it. It gives practical tips such as keeping track of your spending by making your own bank statements especially in relation to cash transactions instead of bank/card transactions. Don’t let the title discourage you my fellow men this definitely doesn’t only relate to women. It has a kobo.com rating of 4.8/5 stars.
6. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie – I read this in summer ’16 *in Drake’s voice lol* and it had the intended effect on me. It kept me through the harder times because this was when Nigeria was in recession and well the funds coming into the account was far and thinner but I had to manage. This book was in a way just showing me what I’ve done but didn’t really know how to explain it. It offers a lot of examples and common human similarities such as how we all want to feel important. It’s very educational and helpful and it ties in nicely with his experience and other people’s experiences as well. It has a Goodreads rating of 4.2/5.
7. The Responsible Entrepreneur by Craig Hall – I just started reading this on Good Friday and I’m yet to finish it but I must say I’m really enjoying it, partially because I’m shirtless, taking in the fresh cool breeze and enjoying the nice view of our family house in the village and partially because it’s very engaging. It’s not exactly self-help but boy oh boy it’s very inspiring it’s about Craig Hall and how he’s handled the entrepreneurial life but more importantly about other entrepreneurs he met both in USA and in (at the time) newly ‘post-Communist’ countries of Central and Eastern Europe (CEE). This book talks about the challenges they faced, their upbringing, their values and motivations, their faith and most important their business and how they changed the status quo and manoeuvred through challenges brilliantly. He also hammers in the point of a 'responsible entrepreneur' who is the epitome of 'doing good and doing well'. My takeaway so far is that the measurement of success is personal and that ‘success’ doesn’t happen overnight and in most cases even a year or two, it took some of them at least 10 years to become ‘successful’. It has a Goodreads rating of 3.4/5.
8. The Circle of Profit by Anik Singal- I read this in summer ‘16 and then in November 2017. It’s a how-to book on how to run an online business if you’re into information or digital products. It’s also infused with the story of his upbringing as an Indian-American to how he made money online while in college to making millions to losing it all and almost dying in a foreign country and then bouncing back again. The book is divided into two; part 1 deals with making money online as a beginner through selling other people’s products and getting commissions (affiliate marketing). Part 2 focuses on creating and selling your own product and in turn getting affiliates to sell it, he says this is where the real money is. Overall, it’s very informative and I still adopt the teachings in the circle of profit. It has a Goodreads rating of 3.6/5.
Instead of going into details I’ll give you a list
1. The Ultimate Weight Solution by Dr Phil McGraw
2. Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi
3. F.U. Money by Dan 'The Man' Lok
4. How to be a Sales Superstar by Brian Tracy
5. The 8th Habit by Stephen R. Covey
6. Influence by Robert B. Cialdini
QOTD: "Champions don't do extraordinary things; They follow the habits they've learned" - Charles Duhigg.
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